My sister Sujata came down
from USA to visit us. Here is a real-life story she recollected.
Names of all the persons
have been changed and some details have been altered to protect their privacy.
And I have used a few South-Indian
words. Click on them if you want to know what they mean.
Suj, my younger sis, lived
in Grand
Rapids, Michigan, a three-hour drive around Lake Michigan & northeast
from Chicago. A small town dominated by
Dutch community settlers and the home town of the Famous AMWAY
founders. Both the founders, Rich DeVos and Jay Van Andel were born in Grand
Rapids, MI.
And there are just about 10
Indian families who closely stick together observing all Indian festivals and
Indian special days like Independence Day and Gandhi Jayanthi.
At one such get together my
sis noticed a new elderly couple and got talking.
Vedavalli(68) and
Rangarajan(75) had come to visit their niece (Vedavalli’s younger sister’s
daughter) for a few days before going to meet their other niece in Washington..
V & R hail from a small
temple town near Kumbakonam
(South India), whose residents are staunch Iyengar Brahmins – extremely
conservative and orthodox in their mental framework and way of life.
Rangarajan (Thatha) wore
yellow namam (tilak) on his forehead, which signifies a couple of notches
higher in the degree of ‘orthodoxity’ to the traditional red sricharnam
that we see normally.
Vedavalli (Paati) wore her
saree Madisaru
style (9 yards traditional style), and her face radiated the
personality of an ideal Iyengar Paati who strictly followed Aajaram and every
Vaishnava tradition and the diktats of the Paambu Panchangam
(a South Indian Religious Almanac) to the dot! She had also undergone Samasrayanam,
a process of initiation by the high priest and being accepted as a disciple. This meant that her life will be dedicated to
serving Lord Vishnu and she had to follow the strict code of conduct as set by
the religious books
And the story unfolds thus …
A small girl ran up to the
Paati and looked her with curiosity. And after
sometime she went back and returned with her mom and asked “woh Aunty kaun
hai’.
The mom was slightly
flustered, but she managed bravely, ‘Beta, woh Paati hain , Grandmother’. And
then introduce herself and her family- Aunty, my name is Shabana, and this is
my daughter Alisha, 3 years and my son Latif, 5 years and my husband, Imtiaz.
For a few moments Vedavalli
did not know how to respond and before she could reply the little one jumped on
her lap excitedly saying ‘Paati, Paati’ and young Latif joined her as well!
It was a mild shock for the pious
Paati.
And for the entire evening
the two little ones were all around their new-found Patti.
And one could see Paati
feeling utterly confused, uncomfortable and totally disoriented. Probably for
the first time in her life she had encountered a family from another religion!
And now, two young Muslim kids on her lap – ‘Hey Lord, Aandavaney, why are you
testing me?’ is what she must have kept repeating the whole evening.
And her discomfort did not
go unnoticed by her niece and Suj.
Later her niece explained
that these two kids yearned for love and affection.
Perima, you see, Imtiaz and
Shabana got married against their parents’ wishes. They thought and hoped that
after their marriage both the parents will accept the inevitable and mellow
down and patch up soon. Unfortunately matters
only got worse with each family blaming the other. So, they had no option than
to leave the country, in order to defuse the tension.
And for the last 7 years
they have not gone home, and these two kids have never seen their grandparents.
And she added,
coincidentally, some other Indian couples here also have somewhat similar
situation and they have not gone home after their kids were born , nor have
their parents visited them here.
A couple of days later at
the next Indian family get together, there was a marked change in Vedavalli and
Rangarajan and they interacted with all the kids very freely.
There were these two
siblings Alisha and Latif, and then there were Daljit (4) and Gurinder (6),
Arpit (2), Subin(5), Mala, Kiran and one more kid.
And Vedavali instantly
became Paati to all of them!
Shortly after that, one
evening Shabana and Imtiaz dropped in and hesitantly asked Paati - ‘Aunty, Alisha and Latif’s
school is closing for summer vacation. They are having an open day where kids
bring their parents to meet with teacher and all their other friends. My kids want you to come with them to their
school.
Vedavalli looked up at her
husband and then o her niece who finally said – Please go with them Perima (Mother’s
elder sister). You will get a chance to see an all-American school.
So, two days later Vedavalli
went to school all dressed up in a classic Maroon Kancheevaram and her diamonds
dazzling from her earlobes and from her nose stud and wearing soft shoes
specially bought for that occasion.
And young Alisha took over
total control as soon as they entered school.
‘This is my Paati, my
grandmother’ saying very excitedly as she introduced her to
each and every teacher, the principal, the gardener and the janitor as well and
to all her friends proudly.
And many times, her brother Latif Joined in with ‘She
came from India ‘.
Vedavalli managed to strike
up some conversation and reply to some curious questions from inquisitive folks
in her heavily accented English. - are those real diamonds? How do you tie this
saree? And so on.
And Suj commented - Nowhere in the entire world, except for this
little town, would folks genuinely believe that Alisha Qureshi and Latif Qureshi can have a grand mom named
Rangarajan Vedavalli!!
And Vedavalli’s visit to the
school was an instant success among all the children and their parents and
teachers at school. Children posed with her repeatedly for Photo Opps and their
parents and teachers crowded around Shabana and Vedavalli for selfies!
And this news flashed across
to all other Indian families as the day got over.
So, it was not a surprise
when young Daljit barged in 2 days later with his parents in tow. He straight
went up and asked, ‘Paati, will you please come to my school also tomorrow, I
want to introduce you to all my friends & teachers’.
Vedavalli needed no
prompting this time.
And, no exaggeration, she
went to one more school later that week!
Paati soon become the new
favourite in that small Indian group.
Moms
would drop in frequently to ask for advice, unload their pent-up sorrows, a
supportive shoulder to cry on, ask for home remedies and recipes. And she became a surrogate mother to a few young moms
who were struggling to manage their time and priorities between their Kids,
their husband and their demanding jobs.
And folks soon discovered
that thatha Rangarajan was a storehouse of knowledge on India affairs – a
Wikipedia of information from pre-independence struggle to the present-day
politics and he was also an expert on Indian financial systems. He had worked
40 years in State Bank of India, starting as a ‘teller’
and retired as a senior manager from SBI Trichy.
And Of Course, he was also a
cricket fan.
One time he announced
proudly, “I have met and spoken to Tiger Pataudi!
I have a picture of him
shaking hands with me!!”
And when he did not get the
expected awestruck response, he repeated, “MAK, Mansur Ali Khan Pataudi, you
know?” No luck again.
Fast forward 5 years. You
know Sharmila Tagore?? Rajesh Khanna,
Sharmila Tagore Amar Prem Film?? A blank again.
Fast forward 25 years. You
know Saif Ail Khan, Kareen Kapoor?? And now most of the moms and dads nodded.
Yes?? Saif’s mother is Sharmila Tagore and MAK
Pataudi was her husband – a wonderful and stylish batsman & Indian Cricket
Captain!!
And the dads dropped in
frequently to have a chat with him and to offer their help – would you like to
go out shopping? or do you want us to
buy anything? etc. etc.
Suj suspected those were not
the real reasons for dropping in.
For the Kids, it was always
fun time with Patti. And she would listen to them patiently, speak out in
fluent Tamil, in bits of broken Hindi and in a heavily accented English with
funny pronunciation & accent, that made them laugh and roll over imitating
her. And they loved hearing her sing classical songs, bhajans and soothing lullaby.
Thatha would chip in with stories about young Krishna’s pranks, Bal Ganesha, Ravana
and the Asuras, India’s Independence, Rani Laxmi Bai, Shivaji, Chola, Ashoka
and other kings and tales from Panchantantra.
And Patti would ensure a
constant flow of snacks throughout these sessions – the kids favourite being
Chocolate brown Shakkarai
Pongal with Dates, Crystal sugar(kalkandu) and Cashews, Bright saffron colored Rava Kesari
dotted with small brown raisins and white melon seeds, ’cactus’
murukku and fresh crispy Vazhaikka Varuval (banana chips).
And she teased the children
by pouring jevvarishi
(sabudana kheer)) Payasam into flat plates and making the kids eat with their fingers!
And there was a lot more left
over for a couple of ‘take-aways’ as well.
And the days zipped by quickly
and soon it was time to leave.
They had to go Washington to
help their other niece who was expecting a baby - which was the main objective
of their visit.
A day before their departure, Shabana invited the elderly couple
to their home. Suj was also invited to
give them company.
As they were talking, a big bowl of fruit salad topped with Vanilla
ice-cream was placed on the dining table. Then a large bowl of yoghurt and lots of fresh
uncut fruits among other dishes
Then Imtiaz announced in a very respectful voice, “Aunty, Uncle,
we know you are devout brahmins and observe a strict code. We have specially
shopped for pure organic fruits. Also, we did not cook any non-veg today. The fruit salad is prepared right here – not
in our kitchen and nothing from our fridge is used in this preparation.
Everything is fresh from the stores to this table.
It would be nice if you can taste some??” – he inquired anxiously.
A suspense filled silence followed.
And then Thatha Rangarajan announced, ‘I am sure even Aandavan
(the Lord) will not forbid me to accept so much love and affection’.
And with that he helped himself with two large scoops of the fruit
salad and started eating.
Vedavalli needed no further encouragement. She just dug in to the
strawberry flavoured yogurt.
And a light dinner soon got going in full swing!! And with Alisha
and Latif constantly clinging to their new found Paati!
It was a great party, and everyone enjoyed.
And when the two elders finally got up from their chairs to leave,
quite unexpectedly, both Shabana and her hubby bent down and touched Thatha and
Paati’s feet.
And the next moment Shabana and Vedavalli were hugging each other.
And Suj said she could see Vedavalli’s eyes welling up and
brimming with tears of joy as she fought bravely to control her emotions.
She
had acquired one more wonderful niece!!
Vedavalli had come to help deliver and take care of one grandchild.
But never in her dreams could she have ever imagined that she will
land up getting 9 adorable grandchildren so soon!
Plus One, impatiently waiting
to be born and jump on to her lap very soon!!!.
Krish..